Hey, I'm Shari Kubinec

Holistic Life Coach, Best Selling Author and Creator of Relationships By Design. 

For more years than I care to count, I struggled in a difficult relationship. Between infidelity, a grumpy and critical partner, and the constant pressure of balancing a busy career with raising kids — I felt like I was doing everything right… and still ending up unhappy. 

I read the books, listened to the podcasts, went to therapy — I tried all the things. But no matter how hard I worked to fix the relationship, I kept ending up in the same painful patterns - walking on eggshells, endless late night discussions and too many weekends and vacations ruined. 

Eventually, I realized that another year of the stress was not an option for me. So I took all my training, my research background, and my drive to figure this out — and I started studying how women who are in happy, healthy relationships actually think, feel, and show up differently. 

What I discovered blew my mind.

That research became the foundation for what I now teach inside Relationships By Design — and there’s truly nothing else like it in the relationship space.

Relationships By Design combines deep emotional insight, practical tools, and the kind of inner work that actually changes how you show up — so you can break the old patterns, shift the energy between you and your partner, and finally create a relationship that feels good to live in.

Sometimes, that means building something new together.

And sometimes, it means walking away — not out of anger or burnout, but from a place of confidence and clarity.

This is where practical psychology meets spiritual-science — the space where patterns dissolve, energy shifts, and your relationship (or your future without it) finally begins to feel like home.

My mission is to help women reconnect with their power by shifting the energy they bring into their relationships — so they can stop over-functioning, stop walking on eggshells, and start building the kind of connection that feels good to live in.